“Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.” (Rhett Butler – Gone with the Wind)
In modern language…“Lol..I don’t give a shit!!!” 
Rejection at its best… Undeniably… unmistakably… true.
The message is clear… “I don’t love you. I don’t want you. I don’t need you.
INTERPRETED AS… I’m not good enough…

The mathematics is simple: Rejection = Inferiority = Self-Doubt = Dissatisfaction > Action.
The fundamental principle: A Committed Relationship = Happiness, contentment… The feeling of being loved, cherished, appreciated, needed… then follows self-confidence, a belief in your own abilities, self-worth, knowledge of your own strengths and weaknesses… and most of all, satisfaction in this knowledge…

Until… suddenly… the rug is pulled… you stand naked, alone, vulnerable, stripped. Nothing to cling to, your security ripped away.

This is the HER story…. of the devastation caused by “I’m not good enough”.

SHE was happy. Always laughing…fun to be with. She was successful… in her career, with what she accomplished in life… her children… herself. She has been single for so long she couldn’t even remember. It didn’t bother her. She was confident, oblivious of her inner and outer beauty and the positive energy that surrounded her. She walked her walk and spoke her mind… clearly and without pretense. Men asked her out… she was content with her life the way it was. Traveled freely… did what she wanted… no-one to tie her down. Why would she sacrifice that?

Then she met Mr X. She fell head over heels in love. For months eternal sunshine… the days were too short… her life was bliss. But it wasn’t  meant to be. He left, without a word, without an explanation.

She disappeared into her inner world… became a shadow of her previous self… unrecognizable. Quiet, absent, distant. She struggled… tried to understand… to find reasons… None.

Then the doubts started. Questioning herself, her looks, her appearances, her abilities, her total being… The questions were put into actions. Thousands spent on designer outfits, designer accessories, designer shoes, a total make-over… still not enough… plastic surgeons, treatments, orthodontists… Dissatisfaction continued… Soul healing in India… meditation in Bali… chasing rainbows… Her business suffering… employees resigning… she couldn’t care less. Everything escalating downhill.

By the time I met her, she was insolvent… bankrupt – financially and emotionally. A massive intervention was needed… creditors settled… summonses defended… judgments rescinded… Attorneys and psychologists working hand in hand to get her on the road from hell to health.

You would say –It’s abnormal… even absurd … it’s just a breakup!!!

Me??? I believe some were created “differently”… more susceptible to….defenseless… more vulnerable to cope with the sorrows and tragedies of life. Lacking strength… determination. That it takes them longer… maybe forever…. And that the Universe – in some way or another – shelter…protect…shield these spiritual beings… maybe by just limiting their exposure to a broken heart…

Be that as it may – the lesson: – We cannot control other people’s emotions. If someone does not want you, it doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you, just that you weren’t the right person for him. The motto should be;

When we learn to respect ourselves physically, emotionally and intellectually, we are happy in our own space where we don’t give a damn about what others think of us. So if your self esteem is in good shape, you will be fine. At your absolute best, you still won’t be good enough for the wrong person. At your absolute worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right person.”

The three rules to remember;
1. Everyone experiences rejection – Even the hottest, most intelligent, most successful people on the planet get cheated on or broken up with.
2. Trying to be something you’re not just to please someone else is essentially rejecting yourself.
3. Once you experience rejection and work through it, the fear loses its sting.

“The best way out is always through.” ~Robert Frost

Don’t stop searching for that perfect one….The One that will accept you and love you just the way you are….

HV